This is a partial transcript of the When Harry Met Sally episode discussing the final New Years Eve scene:
Kate: the romantic in me likes the scene, so it was one of my favorites but then it’s also a little problematic for me and I don’t know if I’m thinking too hard about it. And I mentioned to you maybe I’ve researched too much, but you know this whole, Harry listing all her faults. So what now they are acceptable? Because they’re man approved. You know now all these quirks are okay because he said so? And then I wonder if a man said all those things to me, would that really make me want to be with him?
I know that he delivers them in a very endearing way and at that point they’ve gotten to know each other so much that you do believe him, but I don’t know.
Carinn: so I have a question for you. Why isn’t what he’s saying, the ultimate act in “seeing” Sally? That’s how I see this moment.
Harry: I’ve been doing a lot of thinking thing is I love you what I love you.
Sally: How do you expect me to respond to this?
Harry: How about you love me too?
Sally: How about I’m leaving?
Harry: Doesn’t what I said mean anything to you?
Sally: You can’t show up here. Tell me you love me and expect that to make everything alright. It doesn’t work that way.
Harry: Well, how does it work? How about this way? I love that you get cold when it’s 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love to get a little crinkle above your nose when you looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend a day with you. I can still smell your perfume on my clothes and I love that you are the last person I want to talk to you before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely and it’s not because it’s New Years Eve.
I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.
Kate: that is that’s a fair point and it’s a good question. You’re right that if you’re going to really see someone you have to see both the good and the bad and you have to accept it.
Carinn: and really even the quirks or the faults that he mentions are not really faults.
Kate: I mean it takes her half-hour to order a sandwich?
Carinn: Yes. Yeah, they’re representational. I think he’s using really sweet examples instead of saying you’re a big pain in the ass and you know, you’re wishy-washy on this. He takes deep insecurities of hers and makes them sweet and romantic and then says I love all of it. That’s my interpretation. That is the ultimate moment of I see you Sally Albright. I see you and I love you.